Have you ever hit on Japanese girl in a bar? Or Got a Japanese girlfriend/boyfriend, fancy a Japanese colleague or fellow student, or just want to go out and impress some of the locals?! If you want to impress a Japanese girl, you can take the help of these classic lines to start a conversation I am sure it will work out for you.
A pick-up line ”Kudoki-Monku” 口説き文句 is “a line to let the other person know your feelings and hopes and accept them.” Pick-up lines ”Kudoki-Monku” 口説き文句are different from the words you usually use in your daily life and can be said to be the decisive lines to say in this situation. Let’s check it out!
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Japanese Relationship Culture
Before we begin, a word of caution: Be careful with these pick-up lines, since using them haphazardly could be seen as inappropriate. In Japanese culture, people respect others and tend not to express their feelings so, many Japanese are not good at self-expression and quiet. When expressing feelings, people sometimes read the situation too much and hesitate to express themselves. Also, the reaction is poor, and the expression is modest.
Overseas people say “I love you” even as they get older, but Japanese people don’t. There are few habits to convey in words, and there are not many emotional expressions. In that respect, you may be shy during your love affairs and tend to avoid sweet words.
Because of their strong cooperation, they may try to agree with others, even if they are against their will. They tend to be a little too careful with other peoples’ feelings. However, that is one aspect of what Japanese society does.
In romance, some people may be reluctant or distracted by the opinions of others. It may be okay to have a little more personality. That’s why romances you develop with a Japanese person may move much more slowly than the ones that you’re used to if you live in a western country, and that’s often reflected in the words and phrases used in Japanese to talk about love.
Don’t be worried if it’s going “Too slow” for your version of normal — you may be right on track. Group hangouts early in the relationship aren’t a blow-off, nor is a lack of physical contact. Remember the culture of the person you’re seeing and be respectful of it.
Basic Simple Pick-Up Lines
1. Shall We Go and Get Some Coffee?
コーヒーでも飲みに行きましょうか？
[Kōhī demo nomi ni ikimashō ka?]
2. Would you like to grab a drink with me?
もしよかったら、飲みに 行きませんか [Moshi yokattara, nomi ni ikimasen ka]
3. Let’s hang out!
あそびに 行こう! [Asobi ni ikou!]
Probably one of the most used lines in all of Japan.
Guys who are doing nampa (picking up girls) on the streets of Japan usually say something like this.
You can replace the coffee with other drinks like お茶 (ocha: tea) or ビール (bīru: beer) or even an activity like カラオケ (karaoke). Remember to take out the 飲みに (nomi ni – to drink) part if you use an activity (example 2 below).
4. Can I Get Your LINE ID?
LINE IDを 教えてくれる？ [LINE ID o oshiete kureru?]
“LINE” is a very popular app in Japan and other countries. It is so common in Japan that virtually everyone who has a smartphone uses this app to chat or call each other. It is the modern-day equivalent of asking for someone’s phone number these days.
（Example）
This is the phrase to ask them for their email address or phone numbers:
[Casual]
- Can you tell me your email address?
メールアドレスを教えてくれる？ [Mēru adoresu o oshiete kureru?]
2. Can you tell me your phone number?
電話番号を教えてくれる？ [Denwa bangō o oshiete kureru?]
If you prefer to be politer, you can replace the “くれる (kureru)” with “ください (kudasai)” which means “Please,” or いただけますか (itadakemasu ka) which is a very polite way to ask for something.
[Formal]
1. Could you please give me your phone number?
電話番号を教えてください。 [Denwa bangō o oshiete kudasai.]
2. Would I be able to get your phone number?
電話番号を教えていただけますか？ [Denwa bangō o oshiete itadakemasu ka?]
It’s easy to use these phrases on friends or coworkers when you’re not interested in them but asking this to someone you want to get to know better will make anyone nervous.
3. You’re Cute/Beautiful! or You’re cool/handsome!
可愛い/キレイですね・かっこいい/ハンサムですね
[kawaii/kirei desu ne / kakkoii/hansamu desu ne.]
Compliments go a long way when flirting. It’s straightforward and a great way to show that you’re interested in someone.
For Girls
可愛い (kawaii): Cute キレイ (kirei): Pretty 色っぽい (iroppoi): Sexy
美人 (bijin): Beautiful woman
For Guys
カッコイイ (kakkoii): Good looking ハンサム (hansamu): Handsome
イケメン (ikemen): A good looking guy
（Examples）
1. You’re cute.
かわいいですね [Kawaii desu ne.]
2. You’re good looking.
かっこいいですね [Kakkoii desu ne.]
4. ～Looks Good On You.
～似合っているね [～Niatteiru ne.]
（Examples）
1. You look good with glasses.
めがね似合っているね [Megane niatteiru ne.]
2. You look good in a skirt.
スカート似合っているね [Sukāto niatteiru ne.]
5. Your smile is nice.
笑顔がすてきだね [Egao ga sutekidane]
6. You heal me.
いやされるな [Iyasareruna]
In the middle of a date, when she says, “I’m healed when I’m with OO-chan,” the woman unconsciously envisions the future with the other person. Moreover, she doesn’t feel bad because she’s the same as complimenting her from the inside, not the appearance.
It’s a very effective pick-up line because you can praise a woman and raise her mood or make her think
“I’m a special person.”
7. Your cloth is so cute
服かわいいね [Fuku Kawaii ne.]
You can also use this other phrase : “Oshare desuneおしゃれですね”
This means,
“You are stylish.”
Borderline Pick-Up Lines to Break the Ice
1. My Heart Beats Loudly When I Look at You.
君を見ると、ドキドキするよ。
[Kimi o miru to, dokidoki suru yo.]
2. You made me positive
君と出会って前向きになれたよ
[Kimi to deatte Maemukini naretayo.]
3. No matter what happened, I always with you
なにがあっても君を守るから/そばにいるから
[Naniga attemo Kimo wo Mamorukara/ Sobaniirukara]
4. I’ll make you happy
必ず君を幸せにするよ [Kanarazu Kimi wo shiawasenisuruyo]
Women are more likely to feel the future with confident people than with unconfident men.
Even if you are always confident and can’t appeal well even on a date, if you say
“I’ll make you absolutely happy” like a man at this point, the gap between when you’re not confident will make women sick. It is.
This pick-up line is excellent to break the ice with. If you already succeeded in making your date laugh at your jokes, adding this one to your roster will get them hooked. It’s a bonus if your date goes along with it and gives a date! This cheesy pick-up line is still cute despite being a bit over the top. Imagine the person you like saying this to you, won’t your heart start to beat fast as well?
Romantic Pick-Up Lines
I like you / I really like you; I love you.
すきです / だいすきです [Sukidesu / Daisukidesu]
* There are three levels of “Love” in Japanese. “すきです (Sukidesu)” can mean like or love.
“だいすきです (Daisukidesu)” is closer to “Love”or “Like a lot”.
However “あいしてる (Aishiteru)” is much stronger than any phrase which means “I love you” and uses the verb “to love” in Japanese.
You’re my Type.
【For guys to say to girls】
君はぼくのタイプだよ。 [Kimi wa Boku no taipu dayo]
【For girls to say to guys】
あなたは私のタイプだよ [Anata wa Watashi no taipu dayo]
Will you marry me?
結婚してくれますか/くれる？
[Kekkon shite kuremasuka/kureru?]
I can’t get you out of my head.
君のことしか考えられない [Kimi no koto shika kangae rarenai]
I will always protect you
僕が君を守るよ [Boku ga Kimi wo mamoruyo]
The phrase “I will protect you” resonates with every woman.’
The word “Protect” has many meanings.
It is not only “Physical danger”, but it means both Economically and Mentally.
I can not live without you
君じゃなきゃダメなんだ [Kimijyanakya damenannda]
It is a complaint that tells that it is a special one.
By saying this line, you can express your sincerity, because it’s equal to say that you’re the best one of life.
7. I Want to Make you Happy.
君を幸せにしたい。 [Kimi o shiawase ni shitai.]
If you’re confident in your charisma, then this pick-up line is made for you. Telling someone you’ve fallen for them directly can impress a woman or man when executed properly. It’s honestly a nice thing to hear when you know someone is not playing around with you.
R-18 Pick-Up Lines
Risky, but bold, use with caution!
1. I Don’t Want to go Home Just Yet.
まだ帰りたくない [Mada kaeritakunai.]
This is usually said by women to men when they don’t want to end the night. Of course, this might mean “let’s go to another bar” or “I still want to have fun, so let’s go to karaoke” or something of that nature. Never assume that it means that they want to go back to your place.
This is perfect for this kind of situation.
2. Can I kiss you?
キスしてもいい? [Kisu shite mo ii?]
You’re thoroughly mesmerized by your date and want to get closer to them. Nothing’s more romantic than announcing that you want to kiss them. Just be sure that they gave you the signal before leaning in for the kiss!
3. Let’s go to a love hotel.
ラブホに行こう [Rabuho ni ikō]
Japan is known for its infamous love hotels. “ラブホ (Rabuho)”Love hotel is short for a love hotel. Try using this pick-up line if your goal is a homerun and things are looking pretty good. As always, use it at your own risk!
Useful Pick-Up Lines to Use at a Bar
Is This Seat Available?
この席は空いていますか？ [Kono seki wa aite imasu ka?]
The nuance of this phrase implies that you want to take this seat to use it somewhere else. However, if someone answers “yes” to this question and you sit down and join them
Do You Come Here Often?
ここにはよく来ますか？ [Koko ni wa yoku kimasu ka?]
You see a beautiful girl or a handsome man alone in a bar. You want to approach them but don’t know what to say. This phrase is always a fallback used all over when nothing else comes to mind.
It’s easy to remember and probably works better in Japan than in other countries.
Did We Meet Somewhere Before?
どこかで会ったことがありますか/ある？
[Dkoka de atta koto ga arimasuka/aru?]
Although overused, this classic pick-up line is still used to this day. Popular in English, asking someone this question is sure to catch anyone off-guard. As always, use this at your own risk. You don’t want to come off as creepy and stalkerish!
Did we mention a pick-up line that you’ve already used successfully? If yes, comment down below what they were! When done correctly, pick-up lines will be your weapon in the dating world. They’re also a great way to practice your Japanese!
Great Tips you need to know
As I mentioned before, compared to other countries, Japanese women tend to be shy and less express their feelings. Therefore, when you want to use pick-up lines for a Japanese woman, it is recommended that you do not be too impatient and take steps while slowly listening to the other person. You should not miss the small sign of the women. Here are some things to keep in mind when making a pick-up line to a Japanese woman. Remember it!
Bad Pick-up line
- Only praises her appearance
2. Egocentric pick-up line
3. Relationship between the two was not close enough
● Only praises her appearance
Basically, women want to be persuaded by their favorite men. However, depending on the pick-up line, even a pick-up line from a man who has goodwill maybe not good.
“I like your face so cute!”
Pick-up lines that focus only on the appearance of the girl are so bad! People, not just women, want to see not only their appearance but also their inside.
● Too many pick-up lines and Self-centerd.
A selfish man who ignores her feelings of her is not good. Also, if you make too many pick-up lines on a regular basis, you will be labeled as a playboy. Pick-up lines don’t resonate with a single person unless you say it with a true heart. To put it the other way around, if the playboy often complains about something like a pick-up line, it loses its rarity value at all.
● The relationship is not close yet
Even though the relationship between the two has not been established yet, even if a drama-like pick-up line has complained, it will not affect the hearts of women. Even if you can prepare the atmosphere and just make a special pick-up line, if you make a mistake in an important scene, all the hardships up to that point will be wasted.
How was it? Now, you mastered the above pick-up lines in Japanese. I would like to leave you with some words of advice. Being honest is the best way to capture a girl’s heart. If you don’t say it seriously, it can be dismissed as a joke. Please say your heartfelt words so that you can express your serious feelings so that you can capture the heart of a Japanese woman.
Also, don’t forget to SMILE!! It depends on the type of girl you’re aiming but a smile usually breaks the ice. Now is time to go out and ask Japanese women out!
Summarize
- Japanese relationship is much more slowler than other countries, so it is better to be careful and take a step to use pick up line.
- Before not close relationships, it is better to use only “Simple pick up lines”.
- If you use pick up lines for Japanese women, it is better to see the situation and her reaction first.
- When you use pick up line, express your Serious feelings and Smiles otherwise you can not capture the heart of Japanese woman.
- There are many different kind of pick up lines in Japanese, and When done correctly, They will be your weapon in the dating world. They’re also a great way to practice your Japanese!
